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Robert Holden on Strong Musical Relationships

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“Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.”

Robert Holden

To play guitar is to be in a relationship. Actually, many relationships.

First, we have a long-term relationship with music and guitar. And this has all the ups and downs we can expect from long-term relationships. Over time, we feel the warming and cooling and warming again. The exhilaration and the drudgery. We feel rewarded, disappointed, elated, grateful, frustrated. All of it.

And we also have an ongoing series of short-term relationships.

These are the studies, the pieces, the exercises. The seasons of focus.

But while the content of our practices may change, we remain. Our habits and personalities create the canvas on which we paint.

How do we balance the patience of wisdom with the immediate drive to attain our goals? And how do we feel and speak to ourselves when things get hard?

To progress on guitar, we have to sit with paradox. We have to actively move forward and engage in new learning. But we also need to drill the fundamentals.

It’s like we sail on a small ship of the known through an ocean of the unknown. And how we contend with our current lack of knowledge and ability – this affects everything we do.

Self-dialog, mood, feelings, attitude. These are part of being human.

The question is, “how aware are we of them?” Especially when the air is thin and the path obscure.

Can we stay motivated to improve, but accept that some things just take time? Can we build more patience and attention? More awareness – of body and thought?

To play guitar, we play ourselves. We play our hands, our bodies, our imaginations. We push boundaries and summon courage. We win and lose, succeed and fail, embrace and fight.

Then we do it again tomorrow – the quiet thrill of self-discovery and growth beckoning us forward.

Allen Mathews

Hi, I’m Allen Mathews. 

I started as a folk guitarist, then fell in love with classical guitar in my 20’s. Despite a lot of practice and schooling, I still couldn’t get my music to flow well. I struggled with excess tension. My music sounded forced. And my hands and body were often sore. I got frustrated, and couldn’t see the way forward. Then, over the next decade, I studied with two other stellar teachers – one focused on the technical movements, and one on the musical (he was a concert pianist). In time, I came to discover a new set of formulas and movements. These brought new life and vitality to my practice. Now I help guitarists find more comfort and flow in their music, so they play more beautifully.
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I am a 61 year old physician, reconnecting with the classical guitar after a hiatus of nearly 40 years. After a couple of weeks [in the program], I’m now producing a much clearer, yet somehow more mellow and beautiful sound. It was really good to feel it happening in my hand, and that it felt more comfortable and somehow “right”, compared to the way I had played before (“curved picking”). The fog started to lift and I found that I was remembering more, and it felt great (also a bit of a relief!), giving me confidence to keep going. Thank you for making your course available - your love of music and the guitar shines through the teaching. I am very happy I found and registered with CGS.


~ Brian Davey

-Brian Davey

I practiced your system for three days, and it solved the I-M alternation problem I had been struggling with since I undertook classical guitar three years ago.  Many thanks!


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